Welcome Guest [Log In] [Register]

Viewing Single Post From: SOD and SOW: Kate still digs Daniel!
Member Avatar

Jul 29 2009, 03:41 PM
Jul 29 2009, 03:16 PM
Jul 29 2009, 03:10 PM

Quoting limited to 3 levels deep
Why do you always have to get defensive? You always make some claim that I'm trying to be insulting or degrading to someone. Can't you ever debate and discuss without resorting to that kind of crap?
Actually, I think Mason has a point. You basically said that the reason people don't like this story is because they're making assumptions and "not seeing all the angles." That's kind of a patronizing comment. While you might not mean it this way, it basically sounds like you're saying, "The reason you don't like this story is because you don't understand it the way I do."

Your statement was gave off sort of a patronizing implication, even if you didn't mean it that way. People don't like being told that they're basically too stupid to understand a story, LoL. If you had simply said that you liked the Kate/Daniel thing for this reason or that reason, I don't think it would've been an issue. But you tossed in the extra tidbit of people "making assumptions" and "not seeing all the angles" (the way you see them) and it did sound kind of patronizing -- even if you didn't mean it that way. JMO.

By the way, I'm really not trying to hang you out to dry for this. I've made similar comments in the past that came off as patronizing, so I'm not claiming perfection, LoL. It's just that some things don't always come off the way we intend when we're communicating via the internet.
Well, your right. That wasn't what I intended and I still don't think I did that. I'm the first to admit that I've done what you said in the past and I've apologized either on the boards or via PM for it in the past. I saw nothing wrong with what I said today.

I've seen people all the time say things like "Well, your not seeing the story/scene/etc for what it's intended to be" or something like that and they never got accused of offending anyone. I just don't see any problem with what I said. All I said was I THINK people aren't seeing the other aspects of this and my reasoning was because some people hate the story . I didn't say people were wrong in their opinions because, really, even if that was the case, I don't think it would change the way people feel. . It was just a thought I was expressing and I thought it was an interesting angle to add to the discussion because sometimes people do react like that without even knowing it. It happens. No one else seemed to take issue with what I said. Some quoted and replied to my comments and I was happy they did because I wanted to hear their responses. I don't necessarily agree with them but I was happy to hear them. That is what discussion is all about.

There was no need to make the comment Mason did. If he felt I was patronizing, he should've came out and said that in a better way much like you did, Kenny. I still may have felt I wasn't but at least it would've been better then a snarky comment.

It's ok though. I will apologize just in case. So, to anyone that may have felt offended, I am sorry. That was not my intention.
Offline Profile Quote Post
SOD and SOW: Kate still digs Daniel! · DAYS: News, Spoilers & Discussion