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|Aliaron||Nov 21 2012, 10:05 PM|
I'm not a fan of twilight but as obsessed with Bella as Edward was from what I understand he never hurt Bella or her father. He didn't even really hurt Jacob.
All this sounds like some psycho's version of love yo make him feel like he's nomal. Only its not about him. It's not about EJ! If he truly loved Sami it wouldn't be about how she makes him feel but how she feels. And he doesn't make her truly happy. Even joyful. You can say he makes her laugh and smile (which he doesn't really do) but EJ doesn't give Sami joy. And the fact that he doesn't care shows he doesn't love her. It's all about him.
There is no thin line between obsession and love. There is a cliff void of any real goodnes between the two. Much like rape obsession is about controlling someone. It's selfish while love is selfless. It brings out the worse when love makes people better.
Ej's obsession is exactly what women in the 21 century should be reinforcing as unexceptable. It's not only threatening but it's demeaning. After decades of telling women to take pride in yourself, you are worth it... To then tell women there is a version of love that is abusive, that makes you less important than the man and his feelings is unacceptable.
There is no version of love that is abusive. If he want to control your very existance, he does not love you. He he is willing to hurt you and/or your love ones to prove something to himself, he does not love you. If he feels misery is what you must have without him, he does not love you.
EJ does not love Sami.
Edited by Aliaron, Nov 21 2012, 10:11 PM.
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