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Jan 18 2013, 02:25 PM
- May 9, 2012
All true, except that Sami and Lucas are both furious at Will for "turning his back" on his baby and I've not heard either of them give voice to the idea that giving up a child can be an act of love, despite their experience as teen parents. It never occurred to them as teens, and it's not occurring them now. Again, Will should have been more formal if he wanted to go the adoption route and I'm not defending his actions on that level, but I stand by the core of them, which was to give his child a stable, loving home that he felt he couldn't provide. Not a single character has given voice to the fact that Will's intentions were good, and I wish somebody would.
- Jan 18 2013, 02:19 PM
- Jan 18 2013, 02:07 PM
- Jan 18 2013, 02:01 PM
- Jan 18 2013, 01:57 PM
While I feel Sami's pain, it wasn't like her fuck ups with Will were of the garden variety immature kind. She was fucking batshit, lied about his paternity for years and generally made everyone's life around her a living hell, often using Will to do it. He does have a right to judge her.
I don't think she said that he has no right to judge her. She just said that your child will judge you. That is the most truthful and genuine convo I've seen her have with Will in a long time.
I didn't mean to imply she said he shouldn't judge her, but I did want to express that Sami isn't the innocent victim of Will's judgment. She was being a little bit self-pitying, and again making things about herself.
Will making a huge part of his decision about her and her behavior is perfect, ironic payback for her self-centerness.
Yeah, she was - but I took it more as a very honest, ehm, warning? Or reality check. That is the gorgeous thing about this story, and I think I am feeling this more and more now that I am no longer a middle-schooler or young-twenty something. Sami and Lucas, mehopes, can have very real conversations with their son about the regrets they have and lessons they've learned through the teenage pregnancies and custody battles, that Will just cannot know because he does not have that perspective, and to an extent probably doesn't appreciate what it means that his parents were so young when this all happened. I get that Will's perspective is valid too. But his parents can speak to him on a very honest level about what a decision like this can mean. It heart-wrenching and beautiful.