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Jan 18 2013, 02:25 PM
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I didn't mean to imply she said he shouldn't judge her, but I did want to express that Sami isn't the innocent victim of Will's judgment. She was being a little bit self-pitying, and again making things about herself.

Will making a huge part of his decision about her and her behavior is perfect, ironic payback for her self-centerness.
Yeah, she was - but I took it more as a very honest, ehm, warning? Or reality check. That is the gorgeous thing about this story, and I think I am feeling this more and more now that I am no longer a middle-schooler or young-twenty something. Sami and Lucas, mehopes, can have very real conversations with their son about the regrets they have and lessons they've learned through the teenage pregnancies and custody battles, that Will just cannot know because he does not have that perspective, and to an extent probably doesn't appreciate what it means that his parents were so young when this all happened. I get that Will's perspective is valid too. But his parents can speak to him on a very honest level about what a decision like this can mean. It heart-wrenching and beautiful.
All true, except that Sami and Lucas are both furious at Will for "turning his back" on his baby and I've not heard either of them give voice to the idea that giving up a child can be an act of love, despite their experience as teen parents. It never occurred to them as teens, and it's not occurring them now. Again, Will should have been more formal if he wanted to go the adoption route and I'm not defending his actions on that level, but I stand by the core of them, which was to give his child a stable, loving home that he felt he couldn't provide. Not a single character has given voice to the fact that Will's intentions were good, and I wish somebody would.

Which is valid too, and what I meant saying Will's POV was valid - that his reasons were good, that his intentions were good if not well thought-out or executed. And it would be nice for someone to acknowledge what Will did was an act of love - and I think/hope that will come. I get Sami and Lucas jumping to the other conclusion first (esp Lucas), so I am glad Will was able to speak his side. I agree.

But that isn't of supreme interest or importance to me, which is what I have been trying to say. I just think for me, for some reason, the idea of parents reflecting on the mistakes they made as children, now seeing their child potentially making similar mistakes with consequences he just cannot foresee, and a child bringing his own valid unique perspective into a situation, but unable to imagine his parents as young adults like he is now, to now have a better understanding of how easy it might be to make a mistake that will reverberate in significant, undesired ways in years to come - holds greater pathos for me. So I care about that side of things more. Like it really makes my heart wrench. It is probably just nostalgia - I was a kid when Lumi were kids (I mean, younger, but you know - they were my entree point into this show) and I am on the floor here seeing the story come full circle like this (a narrative movement that only the soap opera genre could provide, being a multi-decade serial). To see them confronted with this challenge, to see them see the mistakes they made reflected in the choices Will has made, to see them regret and share those honest reflections with him - it just bowls me over. And to see Will also try to navigate as best he can is stunning too. It just works for me on all cylinders.

I guess I am the only one to feel this way - I am used to that in my fanaticism =) Or maybe this is what people mean by fanwanking, as much as I hate that term. Whatever. I am not blind or stone-cold to Will's struggles in this as well, and I realize that is probably really meant to be the emotional focus of the s/line. But this is how I choose to respond to the story, and this is why it touches me most. One of the many reasons, anyway.
Edited by elci525, Jan 18 2013, 05:50 PM.
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