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|beanlynch||Apr 7 2013, 02:10 PM|
That is not love. That "passion" is the product of hormones which have been scientifically studied intensively. It is common in the first two years of a relationship to feel a chemical high. After that two years ends that high tends to taper off and one might seem to think that something is wrong. That high can come back if there is uncertainty or instability in a relationship because the adrenaline that that kind of anxiety produces recreates that feeling of high. But none of that is what love truly is. Love is compassion and empathy. Any good parent understands this because we have relationships with our children whom we give to more than we get from. But we never see it this way because (another social-scientific fact), people tend to feel more fulfilled in their relationship when they give more to the relationship than when they receive. We don't have the expectations that our children will give back equally and therefore, we can love with without thinking we're missing something which is one of the reasons why people often have healthier relationships with their children than they do with their spouses.
Chemical passion is not love. This immature understanding of what love is the reason that a lot of marriages fail, because when thing plateau and there isn't that high, people assume that the other person is not "the one", and they stop trying to work things out. Some people are addicted to this chemical feeling because it is like a drug. And so they jump from relationship to relationship.
I'm a father. There is nothing more important to me than my daughters. I would never ever allow anything to come before them and when my ex-wife and I got divorced I gave up a lot to be able to be an equal parent and my kids live with me more than half the time. Frisco is a fictional character. But as a fictional character, he's not a man. He doesn't deserve my respect as a man. He's more concerned with wooing his ex-wife than he is in rebuilding his relationship with his daughter and making amends to the daughter who he will never know, something that I would be traumatized by and would never forgive myself for. Mac deserves more than respect. He raised those girls even when both parents were gone. He is their dad! If Fisco was a man he would be more concerned with showing respect and honor to the man who did what he failed to do, than get hung up in an immature and childish idea of what love is.
It's normal for us to enjoy that chemical high. As we survive a few relationships hopefully we get wiser and in that we realize that passion, which always enjoyable and something a couple should find new ways to stimulate and keep things fresh, is empty compared to a deep friendship, shared intellectual interests, and a compassionate caring for each other and respect.
What you speak of isn't "true love" and it's not what marriages are built from. It is perhaps okay for people who enjoy the high and aren't looking for a secure life long relationship.
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